As long as you did your best, there's no way to do it wrong. Whoever this mother is needs an etiquette lesson of her own on how not to be a snobby, rude witch.

Don't worry about it -- there is always one person out there to make you feel bad.  You can't help that you got sick.  This mom must be an overachiever or something . . . or never does anything wrong.    My daughter got an invite recently -- we had 3 days notice. 

I think a week and a half notice is fine.  Its just a kids' party if the families have anything else going on I would think it would take precedence over the kids' party anyway so it really shouldn't have any affect on the turn out for the party. 

I can't believe that mother telling you what proper etiquette is.  Maybe she's worried her kid was on the B-list. 

A mother actually said that???  Weird.  You did the best you can, so don't sweat it.  Some kids will be able to make it, and some won't.  But whatever plans the family has on that day, they probably had for awhile so your invite notice didn't matter.

With two small kids in the house, I am either early or late, never on time.  Seriously, I show up places 30 minutes early or 15 minutes late.  It is just too hard to get the kids in the car at the exact moment we need to leave.  It is the same way with invites.  I sent out invitations for my DD's baptism 45 days early, because I had a weekend to do them and I thought, "It's now or never!"  Christmas cards will probably be sent out Dec. 27th, LOL.

What??  Wow I think that woman is the rude one!  I think that's plenty of time!

Vicki

We received an invite for a friend party after the actual party!!!    I hope they weren't peeved that we didn't respond, lol.    If you send it out 2-3 weeks early, people forget and don't RSVP!    I prefer 1-2 weeks otherwise I'll lose the invitation.  If we have something already scheduled for that day, we can't go anyway.

And I agree, how rude to "correct you". 

I figure as long as I have at least one full weekend before the party to shop for the gift that is plenty of notice! I just sent out the party invites for DS's party in a week and a half. And I sent most of them by e-mail! (Wonder what that mom would say about that!) As my DS's have grown up they always seem to have the same kids invited too. All us parents know one another well and don't expect major formal invites. 

And yes, that was really rude to try to correct you on party etiquette. Did she write the book on party etiquette? Maybe I should read it:)

I'm with everyone else here.  Do I prefer more notice, sure.  Am I going to give you an etiquette lesson if you don't give me 2 weeks notice?  No.  I don't know what your schedule is and like others mentioned, if I have something else going on that day it wouldn't have mattered when you sent the invites out.  Don't waste your time worrying about this, life is too short. 

Thanks everybody. I feel better now. I mean, I never claimed to be SuperMom and with my schedule I'm happy I was able to organize a party at all. I think I'll take C&C's advice and not worry about it anymore. Thanks again Moms. :)

Just have fun with the party!!!!  Your 7 yr old will love it!!